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Diversions
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| It sounds like maybe you have become too much of the focus of your children's lives. I'd suggest that you have them watch a lot more TV and to get them some video games. | |
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| I recognize your sarcasm here (I hope), Art. It appears there is at least one (1 star) who either doesn't or doesn't appreciate it. | ||
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to parenthood, the hardest job in the world (I'm not kidding). Everyone should know this before having children. Half the battle is keeping them away from religious, combative, self-serving jerks. |
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I can't believe the non-constructive posts above. I have one child in college out of state and the other is part-time home schooled. Up until last year, I worked full time (well 60+ hours) being self-employed, but no longer. I also took time off when my kids were young to stay at home with them. Being a go-getter, the isolation and lack of "grown up" things to do was a strain. My suggestion is to find something part-time to do, even if it's volunteer activities. If funds are too tight for a mother's morning out, find a trusted sitter or swap sitting with another stay at home mom. Find some out of the house activities that you and the kids can do. Hint: the more you are out, the less time they will have to trash the house. |
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| What in the world do you mean by "part time home schooled"? Are you like one of those parents with 4 teen and preteen kids I see clamoring around in the juice box aisle at Costco at 1 PM on a Wednesday? I always wonder if those kids shouldn't be in a classroom instead of helping with chores. | ||
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i've noticed the house stays clean when there's no one in it. as hard as it is, sometimes you just have to get out! or take the 10 minutes to bundle them up so they can play outside for 5 minutes before getting too cold (or having to pee) and wanting to come back in :P~ apparantly this is all payback from when we were kids? also, remember the 'this too shall pass' mantra.. i feel bad for my oldest. i feel like we were, at times, rushing him along to reach each milestone (crawling, walking, talking, etc.) then my 2nd child came along and i realized how quickly the first one had grown, and it saddened me a bit :( i wish i would have cherished my time with him a little more. now i find myself babying my 2nd child. well, i screwed up the first 2 kids, guess i'll just keep having more till i get it right? should i save for college or therapy? wait, my parents screwed me up way more, and i didn't get any remuneration.. nevermind. also: as bad as my kids seem sometimes, all it takes is a few hours with some other bratty kids for me to realize, they're not so bad after all ; ) |
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Three things to remember when the going is rough
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Some things only happen once in your lifetime and if you miss it, it's gone forever. Parenting is THE most important job on the face of the earth. You are your child's first teacher and you are raising the next good citizens, leaders and workers of the world. Having good parents is the biggest blessing any human gets in life. |
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It's the hardest thing I've ever done but it's also the most rewarding thing
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The first 6 months with each child were pretty manic — swinging between the bliss and wonder of a new baby and the near psychosis-inducing chronic lack of sleep. There was the added “bumpiness” of redefining my self-image with the first one because I switched from being a full-time career woman to a stay-at-home mom. Tiredofbeingjudged mentioned “the ‘this too shall pass’ mantra”, and that helped me keep things in perspective, too. Believe it or not I look back fondly at some of the most difficult times now that they are past. You get a little break during their adolescent years; they're basically house-trained by then and know the routine. Then things start to get challenging again in new ways as they go into the teen-age years. I always tell my daughters that motherhood is the most difficult challenge I've ever taken on but that it also was the making of me. They are the source of so much joy, depth, richness, and growth in my life that would have been missing if not for them. I don't know whether I'm the one to give suggestions to help you cope. My house usually looked like a bomb had gone off in it during the toddler years. You'll find your own way though, and it will get better. Also, think back to what you remember and treasure most from your childhood. I'll bet it's not how clean the house was. |
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Jerk My child attends 2 classes a day at the local public school AND carries a full load of home school classes. She starts school at 8 AM and is lucky to finish by dinner. I'll bet she has more education than you or your moron offspring. |
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Jerk or not, I just call it as I see it...and I see that kind of slacker truant baloney all the time in this town. I suppose the amount, content, and quality of my and my moron offspring's education is always up for debate. I wonder why the split between public and home schooling for your kid?...just curious. |
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Thank you for all the heart felt input, I appreciate it and took something away from each comment. Incidentally, we were gone all day today and happened to trade daycare with another mom with two kids so we each got a break, then we played Wii Mario Cart till my thumb was sore from pushing too hard (I seem to think the harder I push the faster my vehicle will go! :-)while the 4 kids ran around like crazy and trashed her house. LOL It was awesome! Gixa, I love what you said about recalling what I treasure from when I was a kid. Made me smile because you are so right. I never once noticed the house was dirty other than being annoyed that I had to help pick it up. What I treasured most was that my mom always , always always had time for us! if we didn't understand our schoolwork, she would use everythign from oranges to pie slices and pennys to explane fractions and beach balls, baseballs and marbles to explain the solar system. I always sensed that she absolutely loved being with us. She did get frazzled, but I dont really remember that so much. thank you! Oh and Danie006, you should do some research on what kind of prominant, history changing people were home schooled in the past, the caliber of students produced now compared with the national average (a few years back a large percentage of public school teens graduated highschool without even the ability to read-not sure if its still true)and their successes in life as compared to other chilren. Oh and PS, most home school kids I know do get out earlier because they get right to their studies and get a heavier workload done in half the time it takes in class..there's no teachers to molest them and no one shooting at them probably helps...just a thought. |
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| I did like this original post but I have one question: Since when did the Gallatin Valley have a molestation or shooting problem in the schools? | ||
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Nice try, but home schoolers are not necessarily better off being taught by parents with no formal training in education. Morons training kids to be narrow-minded, anti-social malcontents is not what our country needs. History changers who were home schooled were in that situation out of necessity, not because their parents were irrationally afraid of the public school boogey man. You last statement points out that your argument holds no credibility whatsoever. |
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| No molestation or shooting problems here but definitely a shortage of well-educated teachers. | ||
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| Not well-educated? Really? Your monniker seems to suit you. Cripes, MSU cranks out educators like there's no tomorrow. I suspect your notion is unfounded. I haven't run across any teacher in BSD 7 who doesn't have at least a bachelor degree and many have graduate degrees in education. | ||
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| Dan you are a bigger idiot than I thought if you believe even for a second that garnering a piece of paper makes one well educated. Don't you know that C's get degrees? I am glad you have the confidence to believe that makes for a well-educated person. | ||
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| It does, however, imply that at least they went thru the formal education motions to get the paper. | ||
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| Yeah that must be it. Good deductive reasoning. | ||
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| but arguments for home schooling are more convincing if they are properly punctuated and spell checked. | |
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I loved reading your post. It reminded me of the days when my kids were little. I figured out that part of the frustration for me was that you just couldn't schedule things like you did when you were working. It was definitely more go-with-the-flow, which is new for those of us used to scheduling our day and generally having it work out that way. I ran a marketing department and supervised employees, but this home with the kids thing was a whole 'nother animal! My kids are all in school now, with the oldest being ready to graduate and I am now working in our family business because it gives me the flexibility to still be there for them. One thing I can say for sure: I have never regretted our decision for me to be home with our kids. When people would comment on making that "sacrifice" to stay home I would honestly tell them it didn't feel like a sacrifice to me. The sacrifice would have been missing out on my kids' little years - not being there as they were growing up. Of course, it pinches a bit financially. But I wouldn't trade those years with them for anything material in this world. When people say you are "lucky" you can be home, I remember that it has nothing to do with luck- it is a matter of priorities. As for the clean house - just keep things under control but don't sweat it :) |
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| Thank you so much! It is getting easier one day at a time and I really appreciate your words! | ||
